As Father’s day falls in the Month of June we thought we will celebrate by talking to fathers about periods with their children.
Today is the turn of Bobby a single dad who despite not having discussions about periods in his youth, felt able to discuss the issue with his ten year old daughter.
I enjoy being a father to a girl in lots of ways I think it s probably a lot easier than being a father to a son. I enjoy our relationship and we have a lot of fun. There are lots of things that I am probably not as equipped to deal with as a mother would be, such as periods but I ask female friends and relatives for advice and some of them help me deal directly with my daughter on some of these issues.
Broaching the Subject with a little help.
As she began to get older and develop it was clear that her periods may come at any time. I want her to be as prepared as possible so that she does not have an embarrassing experience at school as I think that may really effect her confidence and that is what I am most concerned about.
I actually got the help of a close friend who is close to my daughter to talk with her about it first. They know my daughter very well and have a very close relationship with her. Since then I have been quite upfront about it ensuring she has a pad in her school bag as she gets older and talking about the subject without being shy or uncomfortable about it- just to show that it is a normal thing. If my daughter feels shy to talk about it I tend to just explain that it is a normal thing. If I sense she is really uncomfortable talking to me about certain things that surround it then an aunt or my mum would step in once I explain the situation.
Final Thoughts and Reflections
I don’t think I thought about periods at all when I was younger. My attitude has towards periods have changed since I was a child. I am concerned about the other effects that puberty may have on her and how to deal with them.
I am happy with the way that I carried out the conversations. Getting support from other members of my family and talking about it very frankly to show my daughter that there is nothing to be embarrassed about.
Thanks to Bobby for taking the time to share his experience. Bobby’s fearless ability to start a dialogue on periods to his daughter shows that Dads can more than successfully manage the sensitive topic!
Additionally Bobby has shown us that recruiting support from an important female role model in a child’s life can help provide further depth to the ‘period talk’.
What male figures have you spoken to about periods? Is talking to men about periods still an uncomfortable topic? Let us know in the comment section.
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