In celebration of FATHERS DAY, this week’s instalment of the Fatherhood series is with Jasper, a father in a co-parenting situation.
He explains how his upbringing has affected his approach to Periods and how he has been tackling the “Period Talk” with his daughter.
Growing up I was fortunate to be surrounded by a mum who had a lot of female friends. Most conversations were from a female perspective and included periods. This conversation was then opened to involve me, to make me aware of what a period meant and what it involved.
Through education I knew and understood things prior to being a father. The topic was covered in depth so I didn’t really change my thought process once I became a father. The only difference was I would be able to explain from a male/fathers perspective……. Nothing really changed.
I was fine and didnt have many reservations apart from wondering if she would be able to understand what was going to happen however as we are open about everything I didn’t feel any anxiety about the conversations….. plus her mum also made sure she discussed the subject with her.
I /we (as parents) approached the subject as soon as we saw her going through puberty and started seeing signs such as the emotional change and the bodily changes such as hair and spots. We knew it was better to both prepare her.
Also her mum was going away and wanted to know that if her period came, she would know what to expect and what to ask me for.
There was not other way to approach the topic given hindsight. As long as we were all open, I knew it wasn’t that much of an issue.
Changes in attitude now your daughter is a pre teen??
My attitude hasn’t change as I was given a lot of information at a young age, however the only part was explaining about swimming while on a period and the different types of pads available (such as tampons) which I asked her mum to explain to her as it could lead to a sexual health conversation.
Many thanks to Jasper for taking the time to share his experience.
Jasper highlights the benefits of great communication in a co-parenting situation and how it can help ease the anxiety of a first period not only for the child but also for the parents.
Happy Father’s Day Guys!!!
Check out the rest of the Fatherhood series below: